Love U videos and exercises
Yes, you’re paying for private coaching. But don’t take Love U for granted.
You have a blueprint to follow, and it’s in your best interests to follow it.
It’s easy to get caught up in the guy of the week, however, the Love U curriculum provides important structure and guidance as well.
To get the most out of Love U, watch ½ hour of video each week to learn the basics, and then, when we’re on the phone, we can apply them to your own love life.
In addition, you will receive two emails per week, reminding you to log into Love U.
I highly encourage you to do so.
Give me 5 minutes a day and I will give you a husband!
Our biweekly coaching calls
If Love U is a Masters Level course that helps you find love, your 13 coaching calls are like private tutoring and office hours, all rolled up into one.
By now you should have already:
Chosen to conduct our calls by FreeConferencePro (audio), Zoom or Skype (video)
Confirmed your biweekly time and start date with Cindy. My coaching hours are generally between 2-5pm Pacific on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays.
Learned that our first three coaching calls are already planned:
Your first coaching call is a client intake session.
Your second coaching call is to discuss your completed e-Cyrano questionnaire.
Your third call is to polish your Match profile and launch it online.
After that, you’re the one who dictates the content of our sessions.
Like a therapist, I don’t have prepared material; our calls are what you make of them.
Follow directions, date consistently, write down what you want to discuss and I promise, you’ll have a positive experience with dating, men, and Love U Masters Coaching.
If you know in advance you’re going to be on a business trip in the Middle East, we will make arrangements accordingly. If, for some reason, an emergency prevents you from making a session, please email Cindy at firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll find a mutually agreeable time to reschedule. Otherwise, please show up on time for each call and plan around our sessions. I will do the same.
Finally, if we talk on Free Conference Pro, your audio coaching sessions are recorded for your benefit and will be sent to you upon request by emailing email@example.com.
You’re going to receive a lot of information from me – if that’s not already clear. 🙂
You don’t have to get overwhelmed. You don’t have to do it all at once.
The point is to know what to use and when to use it.
If you’re reeling from a breakup and want to understand what happened, Why He Disappeared should be your first read. It’ll take you 2 hours.
If you’re hanging onto your last relationship or burned out on dating and men in general, pick up Believe in Love and the accompanying workbook.
And if you’re ready to start online dating around week 6, go through Finding the One Online – either the audio or the transcript. I would skip right to Volume 2 to come up with a username, and to Volume 4 to learn how to screen men from the dating site to a first date.
Your Photo Shoot
Cindy has already contacted LookBetterOnline, a network of photographers throughout North America that specializes in online dating photography.
You’re encouraged to complete the photo shoot before our third coaching session at the latest, so we can get you online and dating in a powerful way.
As far as what to wear, I think you should dress like you would on a date – not too dressy, not too casual. No busy patterns. No T-Shirts. No suits or dress shirts.
Remember, you’re not looking for a job on LinkedIn; you’re trying to appeal to visual men. Feminine, fitted, and sexy go a long way – even if that’s not your “thing.”
When you’re done, you can access your LookBetterOnline photos here.
You should hear from LookBetterOnline within 3 days of signing up. If you don’t, you can contact their customer service rep at firstname.lastname@example.org. If problems remain with scheduling, photographers, or the final photos, please let me know ASAP.
Finally, if you don’t feel confident in your ability to attract men, feel free check out my friend Kim Seltzer’s website and see her before/after shots. She knows what she’s doing:
Your e-Cyrano questionnaire and new online dating profile
e-Cyrano is a tried and true process to enable me to write you an incredible online dating profile. However, it does require a lot of effort on your part.
In order to create something unique, I have to dig deeper – beyond lists, beyond adjectives, beyond hobbies. This, of course, doesn’t always come naturally, which is why e-Cyrano is designed to help you along the way.
Historically, clients spend about 4 hours on their e-Cyrano questionnaires, but there’s no one way to do it. Just take it seriously and do the best you can.
You can log in here: https://www.e-cyrano.com/login.
Oh, and if you have any questions when filling out the questionnaire, email me directly at email@example.com and I’ll take care of you.
Most importantly, this questionnaire must be complete before our second coaching call. That’s when I will be interviewing you to write your profile using your words.
Bonus: 18 FOCUS Coaching calls
FOCUS Coaching Archives includes 18 individual calls that supplement the Love U Curriculum. These coaching topics, which are NOT included in Love U, can serve as useful and additional study as you continue on your journey.
Fill out your biweekly prep forms
Before each call, you will receive a prep form designed to keep track of your progress. I recommend you write down your questions, surprises and frustrations from your love life between sessions so we can make productive use of our biweekly coaching sessions.
We will email you a new form each week (starting before Week 4), but if you want to download a blank one for you to use independently, you can get it right here.
Prep forms should be emailed to firstname.lastname@example.org the day before we talk with (Your Name) Coaching Call Prep Form in the subject header.